Was asked to answer these qns...and then each qns represent the way you view certain things in life...(If you want to take this test, please dont look at the end, take a piece of paper and answer the questions first)
1) What's your favorite domestic animal? Give me three reasons why?
Cats! They are cute, good to hug and simply irresistible
2) What's your favorite wild animal? Give me three reasons why?
Tiger! Beautiful, Smart, Strong
3) If you were deserted on a beach, give me three emotions you'd feel.
Happy, Time to Relax, I want music
4) If you were in a forest, what are three emotions you'd feel?
Fun, adventurous, exciting
5) If you were in a white room surrounded by people dressed in white, give me three emotions you'd feel.
Love, holy, cool
6) What's your favorite food? Give me three reasons why?
Chicken Wing! Fried, chicken, tender
1) The reasons she gave for her favorite 'domestic animal' is how she thinks other people see her.
2) The reasons she gave for her favorite 'wild animal' is how she sees herself.
3) The emotions she gave for how she'd feel on a deserted beach are her current views on life.
4) The emotions she gave for how she'd feel in a forest are her views on death.
5) The emotions she gave for how she'd feel in a white room are her views on marriage.
6) And the three reasons for why she likes her favorite food are her views on sex.
My view on these QNS! Oh my...its quite funny though.....haha :P
Steamboat Photos
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I miss her!
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Guess who is this girl? GRACE!!!!!!!!!!! Ah...I miss her. Get to know her during Edmund Wedding. She is so adorable. I love her. Oh my..and a very SWEET thing she did for me. She took a cake for me. And the sweetest part was when she ask, "You want what flavours? I go take for you." A 7yr old girl who touch my heart to the MAX. Ah....
JASON & LJ
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TRUST
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Received this sms....
I’m disappointed, because I bother too much that’s why I don know how to reply, purely disappointed. U don trust my words, u don trust my actions, u don trust me. Your words I take in seriously, so please don say anything that is jus to please me, don say u trust me when u don’t.
So what really is trust? That got me thinking for quite some time. So I went round searching for "How do you build trust in relationships?" and I saw this...
How do you build trust in relationships?
We've found the secret is constant communication, one moment at a time. We both came from dead-end relationships from a state of vulnerability but with a strong desire for a different kind of relationship--a relationship filled with passion, love, honesty, friendship and most of all, partnership.
Safety and trust are the twin sides of the same coin--both involve risk and both form the foundation of any great relationship. Safety is the feeling you get when you have trust. Trust means not only learning to trust others but it's learning to trust yourself--especially if you've been in less than desirable relationships in the past.
From the beginning, we've practiced honesty and not hiding, no matter how painful the truth is. When you've been used to "sparing" the other person or not saying something because it might hurt their feelings or rock the boat, it's very difficult to open up and speak your truth. But we believe this is absolutely necessary to form a solid foundation of trust between two people.
People often will trust a total stranger before trusting an intimate partner because that total stranger cannot hurt them like they imagine a partner can. Tony Robbins tells a great story about how we all trust every single day of our lives while driving our cars. The fact of the matter is--it takes a great deal of trust to drive down a road at 55 mph with another car coming the other way at 55 mph and only one white line separating the two of you. The potential for danger is great--you don't know that other person; you don't know if they've been drinking; you don't know if they'll stay on their side of the road. That, my friend, takes a lot of trust.
The challenge is to exhibit the same amount of trust in our relationships--knowing, believing, trusting that the other person is acting from their highest good.
Two of the thought patterns that destroy trust in relationships are dwelling on past pain (whether with this person or others)and futurizing about potential negative events that haven't happened. Every time your mind starts to make up wild stories that involve abandonment, guilt, jealousy--those old tapes that just keep running and don't seem to stop--bring yourself back to the present moment and differentiate the past and the future the present. If you focus on "now" and what you want, you will build trust between you and your partner.
When we have these negative feelings, we talk about them--not hiding them but being honest. We've found that when we acknowledge that the source of these feelings originated from past experiences, the situation is not threatening to the other person and we are able to let those negative thoughts go.
If you place your attention on either worrying about past relationships or question where this relationship is going in the future, you lose the opportunity to be in the moment for yourself and your partner. You also lose the opportunity to build the trust that you need between the two of you. If you are in a relationship that has gone through some challenges, you can't heal the distance and pain between the two of you by dwelling on the past or fearing the future. You must look at where you are at the present time.
Build trust one moment at a time--remember what Dan Millman said, "There are no ordinary moments."
I’m disappointed, because I bother too much that’s why I don know how to reply, purely disappointed. U don trust my words, u don trust my actions, u don trust me. Your words I take in seriously, so please don say anything that is jus to please me, don say u trust me when u don’t.
So what really is trust? That got me thinking for quite some time. So I went round searching for "How do you build trust in relationships?" and I saw this...
How do you build trust in relationships?
We've found the secret is constant communication, one moment at a time. We both came from dead-end relationships from a state of vulnerability but with a strong desire for a different kind of relationship--a relationship filled with passion, love, honesty, friendship and most of all, partnership.
Safety and trust are the twin sides of the same coin--both involve risk and both form the foundation of any great relationship. Safety is the feeling you get when you have trust. Trust means not only learning to trust others but it's learning to trust yourself--especially if you've been in less than desirable relationships in the past.
From the beginning, we've practiced honesty and not hiding, no matter how painful the truth is. When you've been used to "sparing" the other person or not saying something because it might hurt their feelings or rock the boat, it's very difficult to open up and speak your truth. But we believe this is absolutely necessary to form a solid foundation of trust between two people.
People often will trust a total stranger before trusting an intimate partner because that total stranger cannot hurt them like they imagine a partner can. Tony Robbins tells a great story about how we all trust every single day of our lives while driving our cars. The fact of the matter is--it takes a great deal of trust to drive down a road at 55 mph with another car coming the other way at 55 mph and only one white line separating the two of you. The potential for danger is great--you don't know that other person; you don't know if they've been drinking; you don't know if they'll stay on their side of the road. That, my friend, takes a lot of trust.
The challenge is to exhibit the same amount of trust in our relationships--knowing, believing, trusting that the other person is acting from their highest good.
Two of the thought patterns that destroy trust in relationships are dwelling on past pain (whether with this person or others)and futurizing about potential negative events that haven't happened. Every time your mind starts to make up wild stories that involve abandonment, guilt, jealousy--those old tapes that just keep running and don't seem to stop--bring yourself back to the present moment and differentiate the past and the future the present. If you focus on "now" and what you want, you will build trust between you and your partner.
When we have these negative feelings, we talk about them--not hiding them but being honest. We've found that when we acknowledge that the source of these feelings originated from past experiences, the situation is not threatening to the other person and we are able to let those negative thoughts go.
If you place your attention on either worrying about past relationships or question where this relationship is going in the future, you lose the opportunity to be in the moment for yourself and your partner. You also lose the opportunity to build the trust that you need between the two of you. If you are in a relationship that has gone through some challenges, you can't heal the distance and pain between the two of you by dwelling on the past or fearing the future. You must look at where you are at the present time.
Build trust one moment at a time--remember what Dan Millman said, "There are no ordinary moments."
How to deal with problems...
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Yes, you heard right, deal with every problem that comes your way, and this need not necessarily be the most difficult problem. There’s a very effective solution to all your problems. You need not have your problems grow on you. Deal with them as soon as they turn into a problem. For this you simply need to categorize each problem as minor or major. Yes that’s all you have to do. Make your life easy and trouble free by exercising a few things that you are already aware of.
Things to do when you feel down and under
Take a deep breath.
At first, take a deep breath and calm down, and a deep breath doesn’t mean just one. Slow down, sit and exhale in and out. Do this a few times and you’ll feel much lighter.
Make a list
Once you feel a little better take a pen and paper and start writing down all the matters that are troubling you. Yes start with all your problems and include payments, bills, housing, clothing, appointments, invesments or anything that should be done.
Categorize your problems
Carefully listing all your problems will ensure that you don’t forget anything for the last minute. This helps you prepare while there’s still time than do a last minute job of something that’s important to you. Once the list is there in front of you, you have a realistic idea about the extent of matters that need to be taken care. Now divide the events in your list into things that can be resolved immediately and those that need to be left for later.
The right action
Once you know your immediate problems, solve then. Quite simply if the light switch needs to be repaired get it done today so you won’t wake up with the same problem morning after morning. This is the best gift you can give yourself. Instead of having the problems grow on you; deal with it as soon as you can. So with the light switch repaired you can happily remove it from your problems list and get on with the next effective action. This way you’ll have less weight to carry on your shoulders and can deal with your problems as soon as they arise, if it presents you with such an opportunity.
When you’re able to deal with you smaller problems on a daily basis, you’ll be able to lead a more relaxed and hassle free life because you won’t be bothered all the time. Simply there won’t be things that cause worry at the back of your head every waking minute. This offers a much more relaxed outlook and keeps you stress free.
Identify with your problems
It’s all about being able to identify your problems. It’s necessary that you accept and acknowledge the fact that there are many issues you have to deal with on a daily basis, whether big or small. So, it’s best that you don’t sleep over your problems because that way they’ll only mount. Resolving smaller matters with urgency leaves you with a less crowded head so you can think freely about the more serious aspects of life.
It’s always better to be aware about things that you know need to be taken care of, rather than sideline them and deal with it all in the last minute. You don’t need to rave about your problems at all times, but keeping matters of importance in your head makes you aware of them at all times. As such, when the opportunity arises, you’ll be able to resolve an issue immediately because it’s all so clear in your head.
Let there be motivation
Whether it’s in the best interest of your family or personal well being, it’s important you take care of things in the right manner. This way you not only ensure a personal peace of mind but will be guarantying a secure life to your loved ones. Having your problems weigh you down will not only rob you of your calm and peace but will slowly affect the wellbeing of your family. They will be troubled about your wellbeing and in time will start to take your tensions upon themselves. Let this not happen. Take the right action today so all of you can live in harmony and peace. Do not let your problems make you snappy and lash out at others, its’ not their fault. Maybe it’s not even your fault, it’s just a situation, like many others good or bad, it’s an opportunity to move onto the next stage of life, so deal with your problems and accept what comes on next instead of being bogged down by your present state.
Things to do when you feel down and under
Take a deep breath.
At first, take a deep breath and calm down, and a deep breath doesn’t mean just one. Slow down, sit and exhale in and out. Do this a few times and you’ll feel much lighter.
Make a list
Once you feel a little better take a pen and paper and start writing down all the matters that are troubling you. Yes start with all your problems and include payments, bills, housing, clothing, appointments, invesments or anything that should be done.
Categorize your problems
Carefully listing all your problems will ensure that you don’t forget anything for the last minute. This helps you prepare while there’s still time than do a last minute job of something that’s important to you. Once the list is there in front of you, you have a realistic idea about the extent of matters that need to be taken care. Now divide the events in your list into things that can be resolved immediately and those that need to be left for later.
The right action
Once you know your immediate problems, solve then. Quite simply if the light switch needs to be repaired get it done today so you won’t wake up with the same problem morning after morning. This is the best gift you can give yourself. Instead of having the problems grow on you; deal with it as soon as you can. So with the light switch repaired you can happily remove it from your problems list and get on with the next effective action. This way you’ll have less weight to carry on your shoulders and can deal with your problems as soon as they arise, if it presents you with such an opportunity.
When you’re able to deal with you smaller problems on a daily basis, you’ll be able to lead a more relaxed and hassle free life because you won’t be bothered all the time. Simply there won’t be things that cause worry at the back of your head every waking minute. This offers a much more relaxed outlook and keeps you stress free.
Identify with your problems
It’s all about being able to identify your problems. It’s necessary that you accept and acknowledge the fact that there are many issues you have to deal with on a daily basis, whether big or small. So, it’s best that you don’t sleep over your problems because that way they’ll only mount. Resolving smaller matters with urgency leaves you with a less crowded head so you can think freely about the more serious aspects of life.
It’s always better to be aware about things that you know need to be taken care of, rather than sideline them and deal with it all in the last minute. You don’t need to rave about your problems at all times, but keeping matters of importance in your head makes you aware of them at all times. As such, when the opportunity arises, you’ll be able to resolve an issue immediately because it’s all so clear in your head.
Let there be motivation
Whether it’s in the best interest of your family or personal well being, it’s important you take care of things in the right manner. This way you not only ensure a personal peace of mind but will be guarantying a secure life to your loved ones. Having your problems weigh you down will not only rob you of your calm and peace but will slowly affect the wellbeing of your family. They will be troubled about your wellbeing and in time will start to take your tensions upon themselves. Let this not happen. Take the right action today so all of you can live in harmony and peace. Do not let your problems make you snappy and lash out at others, its’ not their fault. Maybe it’s not even your fault, it’s just a situation, like many others good or bad, it’s an opportunity to move onto the next stage of life, so deal with your problems and accept what comes on next instead of being bogged down by your present state.
M.A.H.P
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M.A.H.P : Melting. Amber. Heart. Project
What can I say? You guys are just simply awesome...really you are..Thank you so much for all those who played a part in the video. No matter how small your part is, you do make a difference and have melted my heart. If you have not seen the video they have done for me, please do look. Oh Gosh, they are just so talented arent they? Ok guys, you really melt my heart...and what am I supposed to do? Haha More Bible Studies for you? Or more OUTreaches?
From the bottom of my heart....Thank you for the video. You guys make me so honoured to be your CGL and you know I can really just agree to any request you have made cause you all make me so in LOVE with CG. And through this I have a revelation...if all of us can melt God's heart, I believe there is nothing that He will turn us down if its truly good for us. He will give us the strength, the power, the anointing and the REVIVAL, if we truly melt God's heart.
So are you ready to melt God's heart together with me? :)
What can I say? You guys are just simply awesome...really you are..Thank you so much for all those who played a part in the video. No matter how small your part is, you do make a difference and have melted my heart. If you have not seen the video they have done for me, please do look. Oh Gosh, they are just so talented arent they? Ok guys, you really melt my heart...and what am I supposed to do? Haha More Bible Studies for you? Or more OUTreaches?
From the bottom of my heart....Thank you for the video. You guys make me so honoured to be your CGL and you know I can really just agree to any request you have made cause you all make me so in LOVE with CG. And through this I have a revelation...if all of us can melt God's heart, I believe there is nothing that He will turn us down if its truly good for us. He will give us the strength, the power, the anointing and the REVIVAL, if we truly melt God's heart.
So are you ready to melt God's heart together with me? :)
Heart of a Servant
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standing in awe of Your grace
setting my feet in Your ways
entering into Your presence
to behold You face to face
God of all Heaven and earth
holding me in Your embrace
unfailing love that surrounds me
oh~ God i stand amazed
my Jesus my Lord You're the love of my life
wherever You go wanna be by Your side
No longer I but Christ living in me
serving You for all eternity
my eyes set on You in this race that i run
no longer my ways let Your will be done
make me a servant my heart's ever true
clinging to the cross i'll follow You
i'll follow You
setting my feet in Your ways
entering into Your presence
to behold You face to face
God of all Heaven and earth
holding me in Your embrace
unfailing love that surrounds me
oh~ God i stand amazed
my Jesus my Lord You're the love of my life
wherever You go wanna be by Your side
No longer I but Christ living in me
serving You for all eternity
my eyes set on You in this race that i run
no longer my ways let Your will be done
make me a servant my heart's ever true
clinging to the cross i'll follow You
i'll follow You
Many things to update....
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Hi all,
I know I havent been updating for some time...but really been not feeling well and really busy...weddings...outings and events....haha but I will be updating soon!
Love,
Amber
I know I havent been updating for some time...but really been not feeling well and really busy...weddings...outings and events....haha but I will be updating soon!
Love,
Amber
FRIENDS THAT TOUCH MY HEART
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Thanks Steph, Lian and Ting...for always making that difference in my life. That hug, that sms, that encouragment that make me who I am today. I will never ever forget. Thank you for always listening to me and understanding my problemsss!
*There is this picture of lian that look very funny...can you spot her? haha :)
And not forgetting our HOLIDAY TRIP. It will come to pass in Jesus Name..haha
Phenomena Camp REUNION
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Planning for wedding sabo!!!
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Yesterday night, after work meet up with Jinlian and Sheryl to discuss the wedding sabo...must really hand it all up to Sheryl for her wacky ideas. It was really FUNNY....I can already imagine all the guys face when they do the sabo...esp Edmund Tan...but hey brother that is the price to marry such a lovely wife ok...haha...after thinking of all the sabos, we were feeling very satisfied....and decide to take some photos..so here it goes...
Trying to tell Edmund Tan: We are more than what you think...
This last picture taken was really funny...haha Jinlian say she dont know how to act 'stupid' face. but dont you think she look the funniest in this picture?
Looking forward to this sat!
JURONG DATE: SUPPER & MIDNIGHT MOVIE
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Hi all,
Finally the long awaited supper and movie date is on! I have finally decided not to procasinate but bring it to action! So I know you all are just waiting for this day to happen..
Calling ALL Ex-W320ians, Current-W320ians...Juron-ians, Friends...and Many more.....
Lets have a gathering this SATURDAY: 21st June 2008 at JURONG POINT. Time: 9pm. We will meet up for late dinner/early supper? and then catch a mid-night show at around 11plus in Jurong Point. Movie we are watching: The HAPPENINGS. So please do R.S.V.P as soon as possible with me.
Send me an sms and tag at my blog if you want to come along!
Finally the long awaited supper and movie date is on! I have finally decided not to procasinate but bring it to action! So I know you all are just waiting for this day to happen..
SUPPER & MIDNIGHT MOVIE OUTING
Calling ALL Ex-W320ians, Current-W320ians...Juron-ians, Friends...and Many more.....
Lets have a gathering this SATURDAY: 21st June 2008 at JURONG POINT. Time: 9pm. We will meet up for late dinner/early supper? and then catch a mid-night show at around 11plus in Jurong Point. Movie we are watching: The HAPPENINGS. So please do R.S.V.P as soon as possible with me.
Send me an sms and tag at my blog if you want to come along!
I am back!
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Finally back from Phenomena Camp, oh my! It is PhEnOmEnAL to the extreme....I love camps! It is really good! :) Will blog it up soon...haha but I dont really have alot of photos. :( Too busy to take photos. I am waiting for the photos to be uploaded so that i can go round 'borrowing'. Haha...
ok...need to go off soon...but i will be back for more updates!
ok...need to go off soon...but i will be back for more updates!
Not important....
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Sometimes people are funny....they hope to receive Gifts and Encouragement and when they receive it, they just cant be bothered. What is the heart of the person doing the gift? Must it be the most expensive gift? Must it be very beautiful?
I think the most expensive gift in this world can never be brought by money...and that is the heart of someone. When they take hours to do it because they not good enough, not as creative enough, but yet they try. However the receiver might not understand and if its not beautiful, they cannot be bothered...
Thats the world isnt it? And it happen to me as well...ah I am not the receiver, but I am the person giving the gift...sob sob...so in the end, I delete the pic away from the mailbox because I figured out, it is not as beautiful as what others had done...
I think the most expensive gift in this world can never be brought by money...and that is the heart of someone. When they take hours to do it because they not good enough, not as creative enough, but yet they try. However the receiver might not understand and if its not beautiful, they cannot be bothered...
Thats the world isnt it? And it happen to me as well...ah I am not the receiver, but I am the person giving the gift...sob sob...so in the end, I delete the pic away from the mailbox because I figured out, it is not as beautiful as what others had done...
MILO MADNESS
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Ever Since I started working here, I have found that I really enjoyed the MILO that I make every day. :) So I will share with you guys my recipe
ICED MILO MADNESS
Serving Size: 1 cup 200ml
Step 1: Put in 4-5 overflowing tablesoon of MILO powder.
Step 2: Pour in 1 tablespoon of hot water and stir the MILO powder. You should achieve a very thick mixture.
Step 3: Fill the rest of the cup with COLD water and stir.
Step 4: Top off the MILO with another 2 tablespoon of milo.
You should be able to get a very good ICED MILO.....
To have really even thicker milo drink. Put at least 6 tablespoon of milo powder in the beginning. I tried that before and that was like MADNESS.
I really love this MILO drink!!!!
ICED MILO MADNESS
Serving Size: 1 cup 200ml
Step 1: Put in 4-5 overflowing tablesoon of MILO powder.
Step 2: Pour in 1 tablespoon of hot water and stir the MILO powder. You should achieve a very thick mixture.
Step 3: Fill the rest of the cup with COLD water and stir.
Step 4: Top off the MILO with another 2 tablespoon of milo.
You should be able to get a very good ICED MILO.....
To have really even thicker milo drink. Put at least 6 tablespoon of milo powder in the beginning. I tried that before and that was like MADNESS.
I really love this MILO drink!!!!
Phenomena CAMP! Countdown...
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Oh Gosh, its coming soon!! I am so excited...really excited....excited at the fun, joy, laughter and friendship that we will have at the camp. But what really get me really really PHENOMENA, is the presence of God that I am expecting. I have been fasting for the whole week, expecting the presence of God to come in a mighty way! Haha Just thinking about the presence of God is enough to make me float. No wonder bible says "One day in the house of God is better than a thousand days elsewhere!"
Yesterday was at Garvin house discussing the details of the camp. Really a big applause to all the people helping out at the camp! Think they are really great people to work with and I am so happy that I am a part of the family. I wanted to take some picutres...but they were all so serious in discussing, I dont dare to interrupt. haha I tried to take one pic with bernice, they say I was random. haha :) But I love ET zone. I love my Spiritual Family!
For those who are still deciding if you should go for the camp, dont hesitate, JUST DO IT! This is your life, your destiny!
Yesterday was at Garvin house discussing the details of the camp. Really a big applause to all the people helping out at the camp! Think they are really great people to work with and I am so happy that I am a part of the family. I wanted to take some picutres...but they were all so serious in discussing, I dont dare to interrupt. haha I tried to take one pic with bernice, they say I was random. haha :) But I love ET zone. I love my Spiritual Family!
For those who are still deciding if you should go for the camp, dont hesitate, JUST DO IT! This is your life, your destiny!
15 sisters at work
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Phenomena CAMP!
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Hi all, please do go to http://www.etzone.org for more information of PHENOMENA camp and you can look at the video there. Also do let the friends know of the website link as well.To all those who are still deciding....dont hesitate!!! It will change your life! :)
Forgiveness
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If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
Love is an act of endless forgiveness. - Peter Ustinov
Genuine forgiveness is participation, reunion overcoming the powers of estrangement. . . We cannot love unless we have accepted forgiveness, and the deeper our experience of forgiveness is, the greater is our love. - Paul Tillich
Forgiveness works! It is often difficult, AND it works!
We often think of forgiveness as something that someone who has done us wrong must ask of US. There is always another way of looking at something. My thoughts on forgiveness suggest that you focus on offering forgiveness TO the person who has wronged you. To not forgive them is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn't do to you) and expecting THEM to die!
Alexander Pope once said, "To err is human; to forgive, Divine." Believe it!
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. It is simple. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "No," then that's it! All is forgiven.
Forgiveness is an act of the imagination. It dares you to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility that your hurt will not be the final word on the matter. It challenges you to give up your destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future. It builds confidence that you can survive the pain and grow from it.
Telling someone is a bonus! It is not necessary for forgiveness to begin the process that heals the hurt. Forgiveness has little or nothing to do with another person because forgiveness is an internal matter.
Choice is always present in forgiveness. You do not have to forgive AND there are consequences. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your own life miserable. A vindictive mind-set creates bitterness and lets the betrayer claim one more victim.
There is nothing so bad that cannot be forgiven. Nothing!
Love is an act of endless forgiveness. - Peter Ustinov
Genuine forgiveness is participation, reunion overcoming the powers of estrangement. . . We cannot love unless we have accepted forgiveness, and the deeper our experience of forgiveness is, the greater is our love. - Paul Tillich
Forgiveness works! It is often difficult, AND it works!
We often think of forgiveness as something that someone who has done us wrong must ask of US. There is always another way of looking at something. My thoughts on forgiveness suggest that you focus on offering forgiveness TO the person who has wronged you. To not forgive them is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn't do to you) and expecting THEM to die!
Alexander Pope once said, "To err is human; to forgive, Divine." Believe it!
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. It is simple. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "No," then that's it! All is forgiven.
Forgiveness is an act of the imagination. It dares you to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility that your hurt will not be the final word on the matter. It challenges you to give up your destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future. It builds confidence that you can survive the pain and grow from it.
Telling someone is a bonus! It is not necessary for forgiveness to begin the process that heals the hurt. Forgiveness has little or nothing to do with another person because forgiveness is an internal matter.
Choice is always present in forgiveness. You do not have to forgive AND there are consequences. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your own life miserable. A vindictive mind-set creates bitterness and lets the betrayer claim one more victim.
There is nothing so bad that cannot be forgiven. Nothing!
Communication
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Have you ever talk with a person for very long and yet you still feel as if you have not talked? Sometimes its amazing how we think we are communicating to one another but yet we are not.
Communication takes 2 hands to clap. Both parties must be willing to listen to one another.
Communication takes 2 hands to clap. Both parties must be willing to listen to one another.
Inspiring...
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Open Arms by Max Lucado
If you ever wonder how in the world God could use you to change the world, look at the people God used to change history. A ragbag of ne'er-do-wells and has-beens who found hope, not in their performance, but in God's proverbially open arms.
Abraham- God took what was good and forgave what was bad and used "old forked tongue" to start a nation. Moses- would you call upon a fugitive to carry the Ten Commandments? God did. David- his track record left little to be desired, but his repentant spirit was unquestionable. Jonah- God put him in a whale's belly to bring him back to his senses. But even the whale couldn't stomach this missionary for too long.
On and on the stories go: Elijah, the prophet who pouted; Solomon, the king who knew too much; Jacob, the wheeler-dealer; Gomer, the prostitute; Sarah, the woman who giggled at God. One story after another of God using man's best and overcoming man's worst.
The reassuring lesson is clear.
God used (and uses!) people to change the world. People! Not saints or superhumans or geniuses, but people. Crooks, creeps, lovers, and liars--he uses them all. And what they may lack in perfection, God makes up for in love.Jesus later summarized God's stubborn love with a parable. He told about a teenager who decided that life at the farm was too slow for his tastes. So with pockets full of inheritance money, he set out to find the big time. What he found instead were hangovers, fair-weather friends, and long unemployment lines. When he had had just about as much of the pig's life as he could take, he swallowed his pride, dug his hands deep into his empty pockets, and began the long walk home; all the while rehearsing a speech that he planned to give to his father.He never used it. Just when he got to the top of the hill, his father, who'd been waiting at the gate, saw him. The boy's words of apology were quickly muffled by the father's words of forgiveness. And the boy's weary body fell into his father's opened arms.The same open arms welcomed him that had welcomed Abraham, Moses, David, and Jonah. No wagging fingers. No clenched fists. No "I told you so!" slaps or "Where have you been?" interrogations. No crossed arms. No black eyes or fat lips. No. Only sweet, open arms. If you ever wonder how God can use you to make a difference in your world, just look at those he has already used and take heart. Look at the forgiveness found in those open arms and take courage.And, by the way, never were those arms opened so wide as they were on the Roman cross. One arm extending back into history and the other reaching into the future. An embrace of forgiveness offered for anyone who'll come. A hen gathering her chicks. A father receiving his own. A redeemer redeeming the world.No wonder they call him the Savior.
If you ever wonder how in the world God could use you to change the world, look at the people God used to change history. A ragbag of ne'er-do-wells and has-beens who found hope, not in their performance, but in God's proverbially open arms.
Abraham- God took what was good and forgave what was bad and used "old forked tongue" to start a nation. Moses- would you call upon a fugitive to carry the Ten Commandments? God did. David- his track record left little to be desired, but his repentant spirit was unquestionable. Jonah- God put him in a whale's belly to bring him back to his senses. But even the whale couldn't stomach this missionary for too long.
On and on the stories go: Elijah, the prophet who pouted; Solomon, the king who knew too much; Jacob, the wheeler-dealer; Gomer, the prostitute; Sarah, the woman who giggled at God. One story after another of God using man's best and overcoming man's worst.
The reassuring lesson is clear.
God used (and uses!) people to change the world. People! Not saints or superhumans or geniuses, but people. Crooks, creeps, lovers, and liars--he uses them all. And what they may lack in perfection, God makes up for in love.Jesus later summarized God's stubborn love with a parable. He told about a teenager who decided that life at the farm was too slow for his tastes. So with pockets full of inheritance money, he set out to find the big time. What he found instead were hangovers, fair-weather friends, and long unemployment lines. When he had had just about as much of the pig's life as he could take, he swallowed his pride, dug his hands deep into his empty pockets, and began the long walk home; all the while rehearsing a speech that he planned to give to his father.He never used it. Just when he got to the top of the hill, his father, who'd been waiting at the gate, saw him. The boy's words of apology were quickly muffled by the father's words of forgiveness. And the boy's weary body fell into his father's opened arms.The same open arms welcomed him that had welcomed Abraham, Moses, David, and Jonah. No wagging fingers. No clenched fists. No "I told you so!" slaps or "Where have you been?" interrogations. No crossed arms. No black eyes or fat lips. No. Only sweet, open arms. If you ever wonder how God can use you to make a difference in your world, just look at those he has already used and take heart. Look at the forgiveness found in those open arms and take courage.And, by the way, never were those arms opened so wide as they were on the Roman cross. One arm extending back into history and the other reaching into the future. An embrace of forgiveness offered for anyone who'll come. A hen gathering her chicks. A father receiving his own. A redeemer redeeming the world.No wonder they call him the Savior.
I am TOUCHED
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Dear Ting,
This entry is specially for you. No one has touched my heart like you do. Really... :) Thanks for your love. I read your blog already...haha dont think I never.
I believe you can do many things for God. Dont give up! A coward runs and hide. But a HERO stays and fight. And the best part about persistence is that God will reward you in the end. E.g. look at your point on SACRFICE? That was so cool. You used to say you never hear from God but look...
Something About Comfort Region I Fight In Continuous Endurance
That was inspiring to me. :)
Thank you for your love for me. I want to spend eternity together with you! Let us run this race together. And I believe we will both reach heaven with joy and in laughter!
This entry is specially for you. No one has touched my heart like you do. Really... :) Thanks for your love. I read your blog already...haha dont think I never.
I believe you can do many things for God. Dont give up! A coward runs and hide. But a HERO stays and fight. And the best part about persistence is that God will reward you in the end. E.g. look at your point on SACRFICE? That was so cool. You used to say you never hear from God but look...
Something About Comfort Region I Fight In Continuous Endurance
That was inspiring to me. :)
Thank you for your love for me. I want to spend eternity together with you! Let us run this race together. And I believe we will both reach heaven with joy and in laughter!
AVRIL LAVIGNE - WHEN YOU'RE GONE
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Oh mine...I am just loving this song more and more everyday...
I always needed time on my own I never thought I'd need you there when I cry
And the days feel like years when I'm alone And the bed where you lie
Is made up on your side When you walk away
I count the steps that you take Do you see how much I need you right now?
When you're gone The pieces of my heart are missing you
When you're gone The face I came to know is missing too
When you're gone The words I need to hear to always get me through the day
And make it OK I miss you
I've never felt this way before Everything that I do Reminds me of you
And the clothes you left they lie on the floor And they smell just like you
I love the things that you do When you walk away I count the steps that you take
Do you see how much I need you right now?
When you're gone The pieces of my heart are missing you
When you're gone The face I came to know is missing too
And when you're gone The words I need to hear to always get me through the day
And make it OK I miss you
We were made for each other
Out here forever I know we were Yeah Yeah
And all I ever wanted it was for you to know
Everything I do I give my heart and soul
I can hardly breathe; I need to feel you here with me Yeah
I always needed time on my own I never thought I'd need you there when I cry
And the days feel like years when I'm alone And the bed where you lie
Is made up on your side When you walk away
I count the steps that you take Do you see how much I need you right now?
When you're gone The pieces of my heart are missing you
When you're gone The face I came to know is missing too
When you're gone The words I need to hear to always get me through the day
And make it OK I miss you
I've never felt this way before Everything that I do Reminds me of you
And the clothes you left they lie on the floor And they smell just like you
I love the things that you do When you walk away I count the steps that you take
Do you see how much I need you right now?
When you're gone The pieces of my heart are missing you
When you're gone The face I came to know is missing too
And when you're gone The words I need to hear to always get me through the day
And make it OK I miss you
We were made for each other
Out here forever I know we were Yeah Yeah
And all I ever wanted it was for you to know
Everything I do I give my heart and soul
I can hardly breathe; I need to feel you here with me Yeah
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